07 June 2012
June Blogger Challenge: Day 7 — Honesty
Be yourself; everyone else is taken. ~ Oscar Wilde
The real things haven't changed. It is still best to be honest and truthful; to make the most of what we have; to be happy with simple pleasures; and have courage when things go wrong. ~ Laura Ingalls Wilder
To believe in something, and not to live it, is dishonest. ~ Mahatma Gandhi
Honesty has always been a cornerstone of my life. I remember when I was little, me and some of my friends stole something from a store.
The guilt was too much. I told my mother. Sure, my friends were angry with me. But I had my self-respect back.
However, my true self often was buried under self-hatred and recriminations. I felt that I was not good enough, and I often wanted to re-invent myself.
But that is not possible.
Then my true self became buried under anorexia. I thought of myself as an honest person, but anorexia is inherently dishonest. You lie to yourself: I am not thin/sick/dying. You lie to others: I already ate/I'm too full/I am a vegetarian...vegan...gluten-sensitive...fruitarian...sugar-free...flour-free...Oh, forget it, I just CAN'T eat that. Or in the hospital: I can't eat red meat; it bothers my stomach. I can't eat bacon because of the sodium nitrite. I can't have salad dressing because...
Anorexia forces you to lie simply because the illness thrives in secrecy.
To live my life with honesty means to live it authentically. It is only now, in my forth decade, that I feel I am truly living my life with full honesty. I know what I believe, and I live it. I know who I am, and that is okay.
I recently confessed to my psychiatrist that I was NOT sensitive to beef, but just said that because I was afraid of the calories. And I can eat bacon, too.